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TMI Tuesday: October 4, 2011

Posted on October 3, 2011 by TMI Tuesday blog

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

This week’s TMI Tuesday idea is from Heelsnstocking

1. What’s the worst reason you have been given for breaking up?

Oooh, there is a list:

• I love you but I'm not "in love" with you.
• I love you like a brother
• I like girls.
• You don't drink, and I can't stand that.
• If you aren't going to join a frat, i can't date you anymore. (College sorority skank)
• If you want me, you have to fight for me (not metaphorically, she wanted me to fight her current boyfriend for me.  This one takes the prize, and it was only after 3-4 dates.
• OH!  yes, I just remembered, one girl, who I really liked, and she liked me, broke up with me because she never laughed at my jokes.  She realized that I was funny, but that it didn't make her laugh at all.  She knew that would hurt my feelings over the long run, probably true, but one of the strangest "reasons" I've ever had.

 2. What’s the worst reason you have given, to someone, for breaking up?

• This is tougher, because, as the guy, I'm usually the dumpee not the dump-er. 
• I have broken up with the mentally unstable, the clingers, the puritans, all on fairly shallow reasons.  But that's what high school and college are all about, you date, you discover, you move on, right? 

 3. Have you ever engineered the end of a relationship e.g doing something you know will put the other person off? If yes, what did you do?

• I started dating other girls.  Does that count?  She thought, wrongly, that we were exclusive.  I had to stand my ground that we weren't, so I started with her roommate. (I'm a bastard)
• I started wearing my leather jacket to discourage the affections of a sweet young thing that just didn't have any zing.  She thought the jacket was a bad influence, it worked.

4. Have you ever stayed with a partner just because you could not bear to end it?

• Read here
• Also, I should have seen the writing on the wall with my 1st college girlfriend, but, when you have the tiger by the tail, it's hard to let go.

5. Have you ever encouraged a friend to end a relationship? What happened? Are you still friends?

• Oh yes, several times with various outcomes, but I'm friends with them all.
• I've been enlisted to help friends break-up by doing it for them (break-up by proxy), giving them advice (do it in public, during the day, not on a Friday night, not after a date, and NEVER sleep with them again), undercutting their girlfriend (gently) so she sees all the flaws in him (wow, have you seen how much weight he's gained? did you know he is failing most of his classes, wow, he likes you so much more than Janice, I think).
• I sat in my friend's truck while he was breaking up with this really bad girlfriend, and every 2-3 minutes I'd honk the horn and yell for him to hurry up.
• I had the distinct pleasure, after his long denial, to point out that his GF was, in fact, a lesbian.

Bonus: Have you ever been the cause of a relationship to end? Tell us about it.

I dated my best friends ex-GF while they were "on a break."  Causing "the break" to become permanent.
She wasn't worth it.  I'd rather have him around still.
I told Dave's two girlfriends about each other, then Dave had none and I had one.
I was honest in answering questions about my friend's relationship history (she really needed to know) and she got a blood test and left.
I really, really, really want several blogger friends to leave their husbands/lovers/BFs/Doms to join me in my love commune in CA.  Does that count?