Am I? Really? Probably...

I had a chance to chat with a friend of mine today.  I don't get to see her as often as I'd like.  Trouble at home pushes her Internet time to school computers only and, well, they discourage undressing while chatting, so our talks are pretty tame.  Which is fine, I love talking to her, and she has this cute voice and a great smile, and well, terrific hair. 

Anyway, we were chatting along and she had to go to talk to her "really special someone" who is getting all of her time (damn him), so we had to say good-bye.  I told her it was nice to see her and that I wished we had time to talk when she had more privacy since she's on a set of headphones and everyone can hear what she says.

She smile and laughed.  "You are such a man whore." she said, and I busted out laughing.  "You talk to so many women."  I couldn't catch my breath I was laughing so hard. 

"There aren't that many!" I countered, but she added, "I like that about you..."

We wrapped up, I complimented her on her cute blouse, blew her a kiss, sent her on her way, and hung up.

A man whore?  Maybe she called me a man-slut, I can't remember exactly, but the sentiment was the same, and I don't think she meant it in a mean way, but I've been thinking about it every since.

What, or how many, makes me a slut?  I know its the same question women have been facing since sex was invented.  How many partners does it take to earn the title of slut? Am I considered one just because I live my on-line life out in the open (see tomorrow's post), or because I'm willing to talk about Friend A with Friend B, and she tells Friend C? 

One of my friends in college told me that she had, by her sophomore year, slept with 10 guys.  That struck me as odd because I though of her as a pretty "good" girl.  She said that the secret to not being called a slut is to date guys with class who don't spread rumors, and, more importantly she said, don't go around starting the rumors yourself.  She was discreet, friendly, but discreet in her relationships and few people would have guess her "number."

So, am I a slut? a player? friendly? a man-whore, a flirt? 

and, if the answer is "YES" in your eyes, does it matter? Is that a bad thing?  Does it impact my female friends to know that I flirt and talk and play with others on-line?  Does it take out the fun?  There were girls in my high school who would sleep most any guy that could walk upright and buy them dinner.  Apparently they, especially one of them, were very good in bed, but her ex-boyfriend said that the lack of a "challenge" took the fun out of it.  Since it was easy to have sex with her, he didn't see it as exciting.

So what now?  Do I have to stop talking about it?  stop doing it?  Stop enjoying my time with my friends?

Do you think I'm a slut?



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